If you try to add any cold water to the mix the reduce temp, it reduces the flow through the ecotemp
what's your feed source? a rv water pump, traditional well, city water?
whats the shower valve? a two knob RV style?
could you reduce the pressure of the cold side before the shower valve?
the cold side has more pressure than the hot, because it's going through less plumbing (including the eccotemp heat exchanger) so it might be overpowering the hot side at the shower mixing valve.
other possible solutions:
backflow prevention valves
install a thermostatic mixing valve after the eccotemp
feed the water heater with its own water pump (if pumping with rv pumps)
if you can deal with the wasted energy you could run the output of the eccotemp into a regular water heater (RV water heaters are 6-12gal and have LPG/120v heating) -- this should smooth the output and allow you to run hot water at a trickle.
disclaimer: I'm not a plumber, this is all theoretical, but I'll be in the same position as you soon and want to know how it works out for you. I'm currently just using my RV water heater until warmer weather arrives.