@wildbillpdx when you have an issue with the microwave are you running the 6000EX with AC power input (grid or generator) live? I find that my 6000EX - and the similar LVX6048 I had before it - handles surge load great when running from battery or solar but not well when passing AC power through. For example I can run an 11kw 240volt arc welder off if it no problem on batteries - for a brief period of course as this is in its overload condition. However, my microwave will pulse the lights and sounds funny if I have AC power going in and other loads on it.
On these inverters and presumably others when it is in AC power it cannot "supplement" with battery dynamically and easily - it has to transfer back and forth. My fix is to not run AC into the inverter ever, but use AC through separate battery charger (
telecom rectifier or chargeverter). My system is off grid though so AC input is uncommon anyway. For your well pump consider a
VFD if you can do three-phase or at least a soft-start to get through the initial starting torque/amps. I think the 18K unit and others have larger pass-through capability than they do inverter capability - I feel like the 6000EX and its lineage are the opposite?
[edit:] seeing post #23 I see you do have grid. Try disconnecting the grid and see if that fixes your problem? If it does then just use something else to charge batteries from AC to DC and don't rely on the all-in-one to do all unfortunately.