@mran I'm requoting the posts above from the 1st page since they have some good info.
The emporia data is helpful.
Next I would recommend you pick up a clamp meter with inrush to determine your well pump surge. I assume you definitely want water if the grid goes down...
My well pump was my largest surge load next to the air compressor, I never clamped my old AC compressor since I added a mini split.
I've been running "tier 2" equipment with the grid as a backup. Your daily usage is ~6x mine but I still think you'll find my "build thread" helpful, it's in the about section of my profile.
It's a long wandering thread that touches on anything from my LF to HF experiences to building ground mounts and adding additional DIY battery packs.
I think it would be smart to start with an inverter /AIO that is parallelable out of the box.
This would allow you split out an AC panel and run it off solar with the grid as a backup. You could build a 'small' system to start and expand as you learn more.
I'm perfectly happy with my SRNE I imported but wouldn't hesitate to spend my money at Current Connected on some tier 1 like Midnite and Victron equipment. (in the future I will be spending a lot of money with them). There are many other choices like in the tier 1 market, like Schneider that's also on my list.
Hope my rambling is helpful.